Not always an antagonist, some individuals are sized up by those who polarize. The Machiavellians manipulate, the self-claimed protagonists ought to proceed despite their reputations in man vs society conflict arcs. Those who believe the label of antagonist will be put to shame, perhaps in the opinion and group-think of others. Maybe it’ll be in the shame and should of themselves. Everyone supposedly does their best, yet there’s typically an objectified and vilified antagonist on a large enough scale. Almost as if we can’t get on with life without a narrative.
I’m not here to give a solution for that – if you want one, you can find one that might suit you in this book. Emotional addicts might default into antagonizing those relevant in their struggles, as if others are responsible for their results after coming of age. Can you imagine a world of adult children who choose to blame each other while others choose to own themselves – becoming blamed by the same adult children? The lack of personal responsibility is just that – lack. Something I learned from Bob Proctor that can be put to use here is to study any lack as its’ positive correlation. Poverty as a study of wealth – what can you do to become wealthy when starting from nothing? Lack as a study of abundance – what can you do to get more of yours? Don’t ask yourself these questions unless you’re willing to hold yourself accountable.
As seen in Tribal Leadership’s stages of culture, stage 3 is the most common paradigm in workplace cultures. As a study of people, it can also be applied to principles of psychology – and therefore to mindset. When applied with some of the same wisdom, it looks like polarizing one another upon initiative. To keep another down in stage 2 so that we ourselves can be great individually in stage 3. The distinction and transformation is in co-operation in stage 4, where stage 3 is personal domination. If you’ll romanticize stage 3 without investigating the model further, I have a question for you: at what cost do you attain your success?
If you got this far without skipping, I commend you – you’re probably humble. However, personal humility doesn’t stop others from antagonizing, objectifying or rationalizing us away as we become outliers. Normal today is freakishly different from normal in 1970. It’s an easy out to say that we’re not capable of the same things that someone else’s skills developed for them. Don’t antagonize yourself.
The focus is on antagonizing behaviors, perhaps storytelling if that’s what you’re here for. For the former, check yourself out and encourage yourself if you’re usually hard on yourself. Looking for a challenge? Go a full 24 hours without criticizing yourself.
True to antagonism is the role of the contender. Are you a contender in the things you aim to do? Does anyone else believe you are?
If you struggle with toxic people in your circle of influence, remember this: antagonists are not required for a complete story – they are all unremarkable in the story of your life.