Everyone has their own values, and everyone has their own insecurities. When making a stand we’re more likely to be open about our values. Yet the insecurities come up short in the majority’s stand. Much like fear, insecurities make themselves known until they’re overcome, and only by ourselves.
Through our insecurities, or a lack of confidence, we might be able to grow the most. If you follow Einstein’s wisdom, you’ll be able to test for yourself the following quote.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear. – Albert Einstein
For a personal example, I’ll reference my study of entertainment. I’ve had the privilege of working with both world class and family owned restaurants in the past. I noticed that each of them have systems in place to get them a certain amount of business, maybe more. Even though I learned about systems thinking while in those environments, I was scared at the time to make the jump and begin experimenting with business. Because I valued the ability to earn with friends, I, like many others, experimented with direct selling. To my disappointment, the iron rule is the same there as it is anywhere else.
“The Iron Rule: Never do for others what they can do for themselves. – Saul Alinsky
To my surprise, persuasion has its’ dark side in an entertaining environment that demands high stress out of those who operate it. Transference of emotion can be streamlined. The systemic effects of said environments would appear to be emotionally taxing without the wisdom of ownership. For those that see past the skeptical eye, like critical thinkers, there is plenty of money and impact to be made in direct selling. My fear to start a business while in these restaurants planted a seed that gave me the push I needed to experiment with the products I had experimented with from direct selling.
I share from personal experience that you will indeed regret the things you don’t do because of the five people you’re stuck around rather than the things you do because something felt right to you.
“The common body of wisdom to which the convention and orthodox like to appeal is a myth; there is only the “wisdom” of one time and place. In every age and in every place, if you wish to be thought well of by influential citizens you must at least seem to share their prejudices, and you must close your mind to the fact that influential citizens in other times and places have quite different prejudices. If, on the other hand, you wish to acquire knowledge, you must ignore the influential citizens, and rely upon your judgement, even when you accept the authority of those whom your own judgement pronounces worthy of respect… – Bertrand Russel, The Value of Free Thought, page 5, paragraph 3.
What a wonderful thing it is to think, “yes,” to yourself before saying yes to an instruction.